Somewhere in this blog, I once claimed that I no longer cared about being trendy when it comes to fashion. Well, that is not entirely true.
I just thought that once I became a mama, I should not be caring about such things. After all, I have more important stuff to take care of.
But the truth is, I do enjoy shopping (or should I say thrifting) for clothes. And I do enjoy expressing who I am through my everyday wear. And I do like getting ideas from what’s trending at the moment.
And that no matter how superficial it sounds, it does make me a better mama when I take time in the morning to shower and get dressed in clothes that make me feel alive, creative and beautiful. Even if I’m only hanging out with my daughter for the better part of the day.
Maybe a big part of it is because it’s so easy to let ourselves go, being mothers of little wee ones (much much more if you are a stay-at-home-mama). Our time is mostly devoted to the nitty gritty not so sexy stuff, like going to the potty, washing those little undies that have a little nice surprise stuck to them, making snacks all day long, and practically putting ourselves back in our childhood shoes in efforts to connect with and love on the tiny people in our lives.
Why even bother putting on a nice blouse to wear when I know it’s probably going to get stained at some point in the day?
Oh but bother we must.
It’s a statement, really. To ourselves. That even though what we do throughout the day consists of caring for another person, we declare ourselves, our lives, our needs to be just as equally important.
So I’ve been making a statement for about a week now. I’ve been taking the time in the morning to pick out clothes I feel like wearing that day. Clothes that make me feel like the woman that I am. And it’s been merry fun. My daughter gets to see me in action and my hope is that she picks on the inner gesture of self-care that I hope to grow in more and more over the years.
Because it’s really not about the clothes at all. It’s what you want it to mean.
:: Pause ::
There’s this other thing I had to get over though. About dressing up without feeling silly. Like I was trying so hard. I didn’t want to try too hard.
But sometimes I look like I am.
And I finally figured out why.
I didn’t know how to work with my curves. Or with my God-given body.
For a really long time, I always wished I had that nice long lean body that most models have. And I would always try on or buy clothes that really, were made and meant for nice long lean bodies. And it would make me feel like crap. How come these clothes don’t look good on me? I figured there was just something wrong with my body. That I was too fat.
And then I realized that my body wasn’t long and lean. It was short and curvy.
But that it was lovely all the same.
So I read up on how to dress for short and curvy bodies. And then the rest was history.
I learned to honor my curves with the clothes I’m wearing instead of making my curves fit the clothes that weren’t meant to be.
And now, shopping is SO easy. I know exactly what to look for and how to use clothes to flatter my unique body type. And if by any chance you are Short and Curvy like me, here’s a few tips:
BELTS! Belts are awesome for the short and curvy. Or even if you are tall and curvy, belts work well for us because they emphasize our natural waist and glorify our curves! So I’ve been collecting belts from the thrift store and it’s been really fun transforming a plain old white shirt into something juicer just by adding a mere belt! Whee!
And especially those that stop just right below the knee. Mini skirts are awesome too (I like mine with some leggings underneath) but this one is also thrifted. They are made of corduroy by Levis and this is one of my favorite skirts to wear during Fall. It’s been fun trying to wear skirts all week long!
(And I had to take this picture while giving my daughter a bath because (1) I don’t know yet how to take a picture of myself without a mirror and (2) welcome to the sometimes multi-tasking world of a mom!)
Patterned Socks! And lastly, not really a tip but more like a fashion fetish that I have when Fall comes around. Patterned Knee High Socks! They are just so much fun. Sometimes, I wear boots over it but when I want to show off my nerdy socks and it happens to not be rainy here in Seattle, I just wear loafers. Aren’t they fun?
So what about you mama? Have you made peace with your inner fashionista yet? And have you embraced your curves, no matter how big or small? Do share!