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It’s ironic that the week I scheduled to write about slowing down, the pace around our household got a bit more hectic than I’d like to admit. Truth is, I’m still struggling in this area of slowing down. Although I am convinced that this is a major key in living simply and authentically, it doesn’t come naturally to me. Even when I grew up in a culture (Philippines) where slow is the pace of life. Because I’m finding out that slowing down is not about the pace, but something else altogether.
Slowing Down From the Inside Out
To slow down means to let go of my agenda for the day. To let go of expectations. It’s to ultimately let go of…control.
Isn’t that what motherhood is about?
Bed still unmade at 3 pm? Dishes piled up from last night and it’s already time to make dinner? Wishful projects left unfinished here, there, everywhere? Yes, yes, and yes, because there’s a little one who has a totally different agenda in mind.
Do I try to control her to get her to acquiesce to my perfectly laid plans? Do I try to distract her with something else? Or do I try to slow down my mind, my plans, my hopes, my heart and embrace the moment for what it is?
Our Problem With Slowing Down
So why is it so hard to slow down? Because our mind is still about winning. About getting ahead or keeping up. Like in story of the tortoise and the hare.
There once was a speedy hare who bragged about how fast he could run. Tired of hearing him boast, Slow and Steady, the tortoise, challenged him to a race. All the animals in the forest gathered to watch.
Hare ran down the road for a while and then and paused to rest. He looked back at Slow and Steady and cried out, “How do you expect to win this race when you are walking along at your slow, slow pace?”
Hare stretched himself out alongside the road and fell asleep, thinking, “There is plenty of time to relax.”
Slow and Steady walked and walked. He never, ever stopped until he came to the finish line.
The animals who were watching cheered so loudly for Tortoise, they woke up Hare.
Hare stretched and yawned and began to run again, but it was too late. Tortoise was over the line.
The tortoise wins the race and so we’re told it’s good to plod. But what if he never won the race? What if he lost big time? It doesn’t cut out for a good story, doesn’t it? Slowing down is still about what we end up accomplishing.
Slow Is Good
Slow sex, long baths, slow cooking, lazy afternoons, getting lost in a good project, long walks with our kiddos, vacations, yoga: this is the stuff life is made of. When time stands still and we don’t care what day it is.
We often say that we all have 24 hours in one day, but really, right now is all we have. And slowing down is about embracing that moment, however joyful, however monotonous, however painful. It’s more than mindful living. It’s about growing a grateful kind of contentment that moves us towards all that breathes Life.
Slow Down: A Road To Peace
When we first start practicing the art of slow down, our anxieties and fears are revealed. We fret about what we are not doing, what we are not accomplishing, the stuff we find our identities and worth entangled with.
As we slow down, we quiet down those anxieties and fears and we put ourselves in the path of grace. The path where everything is accepted, everything is beautiful, everything is a gift.
We enter into a mindful life where our bodies and spirits are in sync with the rhythms of Creation. We slow down to savor every bite, to sway to the breeze of the wind, to breathe in the ocean air deep in our lungs. We notice the small things, we delight in the everyday mundane.
And without even knowing it, our live becomes a testament of gratitude. Our actions are not motivated by our desire to prove ourselves worthy. Instead, our actions become a thankful response to the all the goodness we receive in this life.
Tips For Practicing Everyday Slow
Here are some ideas to get us into the practice of slowing our lives down:
- eat slow
- cook slow once a week
- take up knitting
- grow a garden
- write a letter, with a pen and paper
- do only one thing at a time
- journal
- meditate
- sit still
- drive slow
- take a stroll
- wash dishes by hand
- take a sabbath
- take breaks throughout the day
- keep a “to-be” list along with your “to-do” list
- take deep breaths
- try yoga
- pay attention to what you are doing
- light a candle
- turn off the TV
- get rid of your watch
What about you? Do you have other tips on slowing life? Thoughts?